Today, everyone is connected through social media whether it be platforms like twitter or others like Facebook and Instagram. And as we all know, this has led us to have much easier connection to people that aren’t near us or in our immediate friend group. This creates a huge increase in the number of friends you have, but where do we draw the line on who our friends are?
Yesterday morning, I posted what I thought was an adorable picture on Instagram of me and my mother for her birthday. Now, I will say I’m not one to delete a picture if it doesn’t get “enough” likes, but I was a little sad by the amount this specific picture got. I wanted to people to see this picture because I wanted to celebrate my incredible mom, but with the amount of likes I received, I didn’t feel like anyone had seen the picture or they didn’t want to like it. With this thought running through my mind, I began to wonder how many people I am actually friends with as opposed to just following them on social media.
A large amount of people believe that their worth is equivalent to the number of friends they have, and I guess to a certain extend that may be true, but does that apply to the number of friends you have on Instagram? or Twitter? Analyzing my social circle, I have 1.5k followers and am following 1.2k. With numbers in the thousands, you would assume I have a pretty high average likes on my pictures, but those numbers can be deceiving. In the past year, I would say my pictures average around 450 likes with some as low as 295 and others as high as 603. Once you look at the numbers of the amount of likes you have on pictures, you begin to realize the internet has become a place where people can be “friends” with anyone they want.
Elaborating on the idea of having thousands of followers, when does it get to the point that your “friends” become dangerous? Many people joke around about people bribing them for foot pictures or offering them money to choke them out with their thighs, but there is a very dangerous factor concerning those comments. It is very easy to know a lot about a person based on what they post on social media. Along with that, if people tag locations or post frequently in one location, for example their home, it is very easy to track. Those people that what you to choke them out with your thighs could very well be “friends” you want to block.
All this just comes to show that although of social media says we have thousands of followers or friends, we generally have around the same number than if you did not have social media. Maybe now, its time to start lowering those friend numbers and decide who makes the real cut.