Wow you’re really smart, dumb, cool, serious, silly, ____ (insert any adjective). This is your best friend talking about you. Or a stranger on the street. In both situations, someone is commenting on how you are as a person. Now I don’t know about you but in my years growing up I’ve been taught not to care what other people think because that can be detrimental to your mental health. For example, little kids would say mean things, such as your stupid, fat, or ugly and it would hurt my feelings. Now as I have grown older I know more of my values and who I am as a person.
Recently, I hit a mile-stone in my journey that I wanted to flip. The situation was that in a group of friends, I was voted the most likely to be abducted. As you can perceive I was not very happy about this award. I was dumbfounded because I was sure that I would be last, nevertheless I was first. I was first because they said that I looked innocent and the most naïve. I paused and thought, “did I really look naïve?” I went on a quest to find the truth, so I asked other people on the campus and the majority answer was yes. I paused again and a quote flashed into my mind, “Protect your reputation with your life.” The first time I heard this quote I did not understand the levels of it because I was sure that my intentions and character would shine so the outside world can always see it. In this moment, I figured out that I was wrong. The next day I isolated myself in my room and took inventory of myself to see why this absurd award was given to me. After hours of deep thought, I figured that people think I am oblivious because I do not act on things that occur around me. On other occasions, people say I am a drifter. Oblivious and drifter. I just sat there. Then I laughed. I laughed because I know that I notice the idiosyncrasies that people and just take mental notes of them. I don’t act on them because that is not a useful way to use my time. It is the same case in being called a drifter. The disconnect is that I know those words do not define me, but they are detrimental to my public image, which can affect me in any of my other ventures. I would have never have known this if I did not listen to my friends and the public.
In conclusion, there are times where it is beneficial to acknowledge what the outside world is saying about you. Nevertheless, there is a fine line to where acknowledging too much of what people say can bring detrimental consequences to your mental health and image. Especially if you are someone of importance and you have thousands and/or millions of people talking about you. After reading this I urge you to be aware of what the outside world thinks of you because it can affect you before you even step in the room.